Our approach
We believe lasting connection starts with how two people think, feel and live, not with a photo.
What we look at
Your answers help us understand five areas: personality, attachment style (how you behave when you feel close or distant), your values and life goals, your lifestyle and interests, and how you like to give and receive love.
How we balance them
We look for character traits that balance each other, and for shared values, goals and interests. Values that clash, such as wanting children or not, matter more than small differences in taste.
Love languages, used lightly
The idea of love languages is popular, but research on whether matching on them improves relationships is limited. We include it, with a small weight, as one signal among many.
What we do not promise
No formula can guarantee a relationship. Our compatibility score is our best estimate of how well two people may fit, and we keep improving it based on what members tell us.
Your profile stays private
We never show members their own or anyone else's personality results. They exist only to choose introductions.